Essay/Term paper: Fitting in

Essay, term paper, research paper:  Humanities Essays

Fitting in


Fitting in is an important part of life because it has almost everything
to do with turning out in life. Knowing the right people will directly effect a
persons life later on, job wise and high school reunions.

Part of fitting in is rejection. This happens because when someone does
not reject a particular person then they might be rejected for not rejecting
that person. "... waking up in the morning and wondering if anyone would really
miss me." this is a thought that might course through someone's mind after being
rejected. Most people respond differently, Some people might dress and act
totally different just to try to "fit in" that way. Most will just forget about
that group or single person. I have often observed that people often times try
to find out why that person or group rejected them and try to make it better.
Being rejected is like someone saying "You do not fit in with us so leave us
alone" its a nasty feeling. Some people let others down easy and that is nice of
them.

Why is it so hard to fit in? There is so much social pressure now that
it is getting harder and harder to "fit in". When I say social pressure I mean
how to act, look, sound, walk, and so on. Clothes play a very important role in
fitting in with the crowd. People say that a first impression is the most
important one so people try to make the best first impression by dressing up or
showing someone there not. Some people try to stay in fashion, they do this to
stand out or be noticed. A huge role in fitting in is changing or, in other
words, being someone you are not. To describe this I think of putting on a mask
over your whole body. Some people just spend all day "lying there and thinking
about all the stupid things I've done today."

Lastly, being liked by other people is what "fitting in" is all about.
Like I said before, you change yourself, dramatically sometimes, just to fit in.
Changing yourself might include dress, hair, self. Changing yourself might just
make it harder to fit in so people just stick to what they have changed
themselves since they do not know what else to do. Often people wonder "What if
I say this to them, well if I say this then they might not like me. Even
though...." Emotional stress can damage a person so much they just do not care
anymore. Individuals will do amazing things just to achieve "Fitting in" after
studying human behavior I have learned that people will change so much they just
forget just about everything else and focus all there energy on "fitting in".

I have found that doing actions you usually do not do just to fit in is
very damaging and should not be stressed over. Unfortunately I have not come to
any conclusions that have any positive aspects about fitting in, besides the
fact if you fit in then you have to find ways to fit in with other groups. In
my personal opinion you should not base your life decisions about wether or not
you will fit in but wether there morally correct decisions.